Hugging and Flirting

How do you feel about another woman hugging your spouse in a flirtiaous way? A woman that works with my husband gave him a long hug then hit his hip with hers. I was sitting in the car and I saw it. I honked the horn and she came out. I explained to her that he is my husband and that I didn't appreciate her hugging on him that way. I also explained to her that this was her warning and not to do it again. She quietly walked away. See, I see things differently than most I guess. I don't think you should be hanging all over someone who is married. I also don't think you should call married people pet names. I call my husband baby, so I sure don't want to her another female do it. And if your married you shouldn't be calling other people pet names or hugging all over other people. To me it is a thing of respect for your spouse and respect for other married people. I'm sure so people think I must be overly jealous or something. But I don't think so. If we are married then people should respect limits. By the way my husband was telling her to get off him and she wasn't listening. When he heard me blow the horn he laughed cause he knew what was coming. I don't mind a quick little hug between friends but this lady is no friend of my husbands or mine. Oh well my little vent. So do any of yall get your panties in a twitch in hugging, flirting situations? Do you think it is ok to flirt with married people, or are you married and flirt? Or do you think there are limits out of respect for yourself, your spouse and marriage that should be taken seriously?

Getting Your House Organized On Lazy Days

Getting Your House Organized On Lazy Days

That's right, I am down right lazy sometimes. I just want to sit back, watch tv, sleep or do absolutely nothing. How do I do it and get by with it? With 8 children and a husband, my house can become cluttered and down right messy in a flash. But sometimes I just don't feel like cleaning, cooking or organizing. Maybe I am tired, have a lot of errands to run, or maybe I just want to watch movies all day and I am just being plain old lazy. On those days I noticed that my house becomes overrun with clutter, clothes piled up on the floor, every dish in the house dirty, crayons and toys everywhere. Empty food boxes and cans fill the kitchen. I guess everyone thinks if mommy is taking a break we can too. During these awful times, I notice that I throw away food, have to rewash clothes, throw away broken toys, crayons, etc. Shampoo gets thrown into the bathtub full of water, soap left in the water, even the toilet paper gets thrown into the toilet. Maybe I have the most unruly children or maybe they are just being kids. Well, I came up with a program that works to keep my home running smoothly on my lazy days.

Here are some simple guidelines that I use to keep an organized home and be lazy..

Set Up A Basic Chore Chart That Is For Daily Cleaning. Things that have to be done no matter what. Easy enough to where you don't have to spend a lot of time going behind your family seeing if things are done correctly. I have chore charts and house rules hanging on the walls thru out the house. So in the event I am not home, sick or just being lazy, everyone knows that they are still excepted to follow the simple guidelines of home living. Now yes I have heard from my kids, well why aren't you cleaning, mainly on the days I am being lazy. So I fixed that by giving each child one day off a week. Problem solved.

Home Rules. This one is very important. Now with this one you really have to be consistent. No shoes worn in the house, no food outside of kitchen, clothes put away, toys put up after playing, etc. If home rules aren't done everyday, then your home can quickly become full of clutter and just a plain unhappy place. You end up wasting time and money cleaning it back up. You get in a bad mood, might yell at the kids, they get mad. Just horrible. So set yourself up a list of basic home rule guidelines and post them up to remind your family what the rules and goals are for your family. Be consistent in making sure they are followed.

Meal Plan Ahead. Now I am not the kind of mom that makes daily menus of what we are going to eat. What if I made out a meal planner and Friday is chicken day and I don't want chicken. Unhappy mommy. We don't want that do we? So what I do is a weekly grocery list with ideas for meals. My husband is a butcher so I always have plenty of meat to choose from. If you don't have a butcher at home, keep up with your weekly grocery ads. Get to be friendly with your local meat manager and meat cutters. They will tell you when they mark meat down and when to come pick up mark downs. This works everywhere in the grocery store. The grocery manager can tell you when they are going to mark down grocery items. Networking works everywhere. Now that you have your grocery list together and your items bought, you can write down possible meals. Write them down so your older children or husband can cook too. When you cook, make extra. For instance when I make spaghetti, I always make extra. You freeze it. On a day when I don't have time to cook or being lazy, I just zap it in the microwave and make spaghetti sandwhiches.

Be Thankful. After you have put into to place these simple ideas, don't forget to thank everyone. and reward them. If I am just gonna lay around and watch movies, then I make sure I get my family a movie that they have been wanting to watch. Let them pick a meal they would like maybe pizza. Everyone understands that mom needs lazy days sometimes too. So make sure that your family knows how much you appreciate their efforts to give you a free day. If you do thank them they are always going to be more willing to let you enjoy your lazy days.

Future articles will include my list of home rules, chore charts, what we call 8 ball, home binder, and being a successful home manager. Make sure to come back and thank you so much for stopping in. Have a wonderful peaceful day!

I'm getting a truck

I am buying a used truck tomorrow. Yeppie! I have always wanted a truck. My husband has had many. But now it is my turn. It is an orange 2000 Ford Ranger. It's a really nice truck and it won't take long to pay it off. We carry our trash away in my husband's truck. And I always have to wait for him to take it cause I can't drive his, it's a stick. Also we have been wanting to go camping on the beach but need a four wheel drive to drive on the beach. So you know where I am heading for vacation next summer. Here is a picture of it. Happy Happy Joy Joy!!!!!

Mommy Mondays

Somedays I think Mondays are the best days of the week. After a weekend of the kids yelling, not listening, I get so tired and just plain worn out. That is what this weekend was like. Then comes Monday. Time to get up, ready for school,breakfast, hurry don't miss your bus, do you have everything? Then 7:45 arrives. Oh the few moments of bliss. A quiet house. Until the little ones wake up. But hey they are easier. No back talking. They still look at me as if I am the queen of the world. At what age do they figure out that you are just human, that your not perfect? Heck, they even hate you at times and become to think you are the lamest and dumbest creature ever to walk the face of the earth. I have 3 teen girls by the way. Then they come home. Mommy can you help me with my homework, what's for supper, and can I have this that or the other. Back to a regular routine, back to them figuring out this lame, dumb mom is still in control, loves them and is refreshed to see their loving faces when they get home, Mondays are sweet.

Choices and Self Discovery

So who am I? Have you ever asked yourself? Some people look back and wonder what happen to their dreams, what got them to where they are now, review themselves, wonder if they are happy, I mean really happy with who they are now, and if they could go back and change things would they.

The words that most people would use to define me is a mom of 7 children and one on the way. Married twice. Have a wonderful husband. Nice. The comment I hear most is " How do you do it. I couldn't handle so many kids." No one really knows me, what I think about, my personality, if I am a bitch, they no nothing.

I can't really look back on any dreams that I had growing up. I didn't really have any. I grew up in a abusive family and foster care. My only dream was to become an adult. Then when I reached 18 I got pregnant, scared, and married. I followed what everyone around me said was the right thing to do. Hell I didn't know what was right or wrong. I want to be a good mother and figured I didn't know anything, so I listened to others. I wanted to go to college, but didn't because my husband didn't want me to. My place was home taking care of him and the children.
Eight years and 4 children later, divorce and remarriage. Well I am happily married, with 4 more children to add to the mix. It's not all easy though. Eight children can be hard at times.
But we are family and we work thru things good and bad. But still where is me? Is there more to me than mom and wife?

I think their is another whole person I don't even know yet. I know I love being a mom but somehow I still feel there is more. What are my dreams? What do I want for me out of life, what do I want to put into this world and learn from it? Do I want to eat healthier and live a healthier life. What is my favorite book? Should I write a book? What do I think of that person I see in the mirror? What can I do to change her to make her better?

All the choices I have made in my life has lead me to this point. And all the choices I make will define who and what I become in the future.

What about you, what choices have you made, are you happy with who you are, do you know who you are, where are you heading?

Drop me a comment, I am eager to know what others think and who they really are.